As we all know the internet has boosted the use of pornographic material which makes searching and sharing of sexually explicit content easier, faster, anonymous and seemingly safe. It also guarantees the anonymity of using those who visit pornographic sites. It allows consumers to consult the web from home, which prevents any potential embarrassment from buying pornography material in their local shop, this takes away the worry of them bumping into someone they know such as family, friends or worse, their work colleagues.

Internet porn can be used as a tool for learning and for becoming stimulated in real life sexual interactions. The availability and anonymity gives people the opportunity to add novelty to their sex lives, learn about their bodies, and explore a variety of techniques and sexual interest. Couples may watch it together to experiment afterward or during to spice up their sex lives.

I can tell you that it’s important to remember that the porn industry often enhances or alters the appearance of its participants. Viewers who compare the activity with reality may find themselves disappointed or confused in their own real life sexual encounters. Even as a former famous porn actress I can assure you its took alot longer than 2o minutes to film the scene the viewer gets to see in the comfort of thier own home.

Watching lots of porn can lead to the possibility of sexual addiction if not viewed in moderation, the signs of an unhealthy relationship can include an inability to stop interacting or watching porn, losing track of time spent on porn use, showing less interest in social events, decreased physical affection and needing more stimulation to become aroused or reach climax.


With free teasers of porn, pirated videos and amateur produced porn being provided it has taken the profits from the professional porn industry and its performers. Once when professional performers such as myself were paid around $1200 a scene they now only receive around $600. As the industry has become more competitive it has also forced the intensity and vulgarity its content up. Nowadays you will find non-standard activities taken to the extreme which is way beyond anything I used to do or have ever considered doing.

 I would advise preople considering a career in the Adult movie industry today to be cautious and to gain knowledge before hand due to its lack of professional growth and financial rewards unlike in my day. Today you need to be more extreme to make money which in turn has the ability to break people emotionally. Social media and internet access has made it something you can never run away from and there will be times you want too. Pornography has a place in our world with professional control and guidlines and without these being met it may seem fun at the time but in 10 years time you could be cringing. It is also important to note that being a porn star does not make you a sex addict and the two should not be confused.

For the online sex addict the anonymity of the internet gives them access to sites without being caught, they can also become addicted to the abundance, variety and ease of availability. The signs for sex addiction and online sex addiction do differ. Sexual addiction can involve random sexual relationships, prostitution, exhibitionist, voyeurism, incest and rape. Internet addiction normally involves chatting about sexual fantasies, self stimulations and masturbation, real-time webcam sex, watching live sex shows and video streaming.
Fantasy is the drug of internet sex and you can find almost anything on demand that will satisfy any sexual desire or need imaginable. For the addict the fantasy begins and progresses as a novelty created through cyberspace.  It has everything to do with the fantasy and is less about being with another person which makes it online sex unique.

Motives of addicts

Sex addictsget a sense of euphoria, the sexual experience is not about intimacy. Addicts use it to seek pleasure and to avoid unpleasant feelings from things such as work or interpersonal problems. This is not unlike how an alcoholic uses alcohol. In both instances the reward gained from the experience soon gives way to guilt, remorse and promises to change.  

Online sex addictscan be related to several things. Online sex is safe from diseases and because it’s safe for releasing our sexual fears and inhibitions. For women it can give them empowerment and ways to discover a new sexual freedom. It also intensifies self stimulation and masturbation by making it easier for users to access it even at work. (Yes a very high percentage of people masturbate at work)

As the user experiments with virtual sex they quickly learn they have a vast potential to have a new erotic experience each time they log on. They use this knowledge to heighten sexual stimulation when they masturbate as they can access a different stimulating sexual material every time. People also use it to escape from stress as they can become the master of their own personal illicit movie or novel, to them they are an active participant and in control.

It can also normalise sexual fantasies as sex is an important part of human life but is not always openly spoken about. Many people hide from talking about sex and masturbation by simply shoving it under the carpet which sends a bad message. Online sex changes all this and provides a safe forum to be honest about their sexual thoughts which helps online sex user’s normalize their sexual feelings. Also not all people want to be in a relationship but still want sexual gratification and provides an outlet that works for them.  Others may  feel insecure about their physical appearance and unfortunately too many people make judgements. Online sex changes this and provides approval about their insecurities, it is also provides online satisfaction for people suffering from disabilities and diseases.

For someone with performance anxiety which causes them sexual dysfunction such as premature ejaculation, impotency or vaginisums online sex can help reduce these issues.  Cyber sex help by building their confidence and assisting in overcoming their problems. It also helps with couples who struggle with sexual intimacy in their relationship because of performance anxiety, some find it better than Viagra!

Although porn is an addiction, there is normally an underlying cause. The problem is rarely the object of addiction, but rather the reason for becoming habitual and compulsive to that object.

 


Issues from online sex addiction

With so much online sex available some users start to feel that they need online sex more than sex itself, as they slowly begin to lose control over their habit. It’s even been known that some people will not even take a toilet break so will find a bottle to urinate in!

Compulsions related to online sex often include behaviors such as- having trouble managing time at the computer-feeling preoccupied to use the internet for sex-using online sex to cope with stress or loneliness- hiding online interactions from others-feeling guilty and shameful because of online acts-compulsive masturbating when online and experiencing irritability-anxiety or depression when they cannot get online.

Recovery is not simple as we need technology for our everyday life but it needs to be addressed.

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