The hashtag “Metoo” campaign is now a long-lost memory hidden amongst the online world and  the press have stopped talking about it-which means it is no longer trendy. The worldwide campaign of standing up for women’s rights has left a sour taste amongst many men and rightly so as many people place all men under this label.

Could it be that men have been blaming women since the day of Eve? Even now many are blaming women for all of life’s disasters-look at Brexit for instance-people assume Theresa May is entirely to blame, which is far from the truth. Many men compare her to Margaret Thatcher who many say led the once bulldog bred Britain into poverty and that women can not rule the world-or is it that many just don’t understand the equality rules between men and women.

Screenshot 2019-04-08 at 17.20.39The “Metoo” campaign was to fight out sexual abuse, not to create it. Fast forward to 2019 where sex is openly spoken about yet misinterpretated through television and media to make people think of it as a dirty word if you actually do it as a source of income. Prostitution dates back to when life began and most people are actually trading their bodies for some return in every sense of life. Therefore, have women created the problem of others calling us bitches, whores and slut’s?  If you are in a relationship you can withhold sex from a man-this makes you a bitch, if you work in the sex trade as business then you are called a whore, and if you enjoy sex and make it part of your life freely then your classed as a slut. Therefore there is no escape to being sexually labelled by both sexes.

Channel Four recently aired a production called “Mums make Porn” which I watched with dread not only because  they glamorised the porn industry by using a high-end production studio owned by “Erika Lust” which is not the true reflection of the porn industry these days, they also used inexperienced parents who know nothing about making porn making the true professionals be labeled as dirty and outcast, especially for the female performers.  Do people not realize that sex is completely natural and that some people are happy using their bodies as their work and pride themselves of it. Showing parents with no knowledge of pornography was going to cause online abuse for many performers and also to its viewers who had an opinion. Are people bad for watching porn-no, is the porn industry responsible for downloading it into your child’s sight, no. The only people responsible for bringing pornography into anyones house is the person providing the source to view the material, i.e laptops,computers and mobile phones. In my 20 years of covering the sex industry I do not know of one performer who has made a pornographic movie aimed at a child or for childrens viewing- it is called Adult entertainment for this very reason.

The point is we all are entitled to be who we choose to be and this counts in sexuality, gender, professional choices and every aspect of our lives. What others think of us is not of our concern-standing up for who we are is. If you are a sex worker it is your given right to do as you please, its your body and your decisions.

If you are the one sat at home on your computer shaming people online for their choices by leaving social media degrading comments then shame on you for being such a coward and a two faced masterbater -yes, don’t think for one minute you were forced to see a women having sex on film- it was your choice to go and abuse someone so own it. Cyberstalking is the use of the Internet or other electronic means to stalk or harass an individual, group, or organization. It may include false accusations, defamation, slander and libel. It may also include monitoring, identity theft, threats, vandalism, solicitation for sex, or gathering information that may be used to threaten, embarrass or harass. Cyberstalking is a criminal offense.As a counsellor to sex workers and a mediator between sexual victims and the Met police I can happily say that if you are the one leaving sexual labelling comments of Whore, Slut or Bitch on anyone’s timeline via social media then you could be contributing to pushing them towards self loathing and addictions. This is the same for production companies who offer no support and no pay to performers to take part in their productions for their own gain which is classed as slavery.

Do you have a right to sexually label someone?

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