The world is now a place where everything is available at the click of a finger, where ignorant parental control is high, and teenagers are given a iPad to keep them quiet and now nearly all children have mobile phones and can freely access the internet. It is estimated that around 80% of 13 year olds have watched pornography and in some cases children as young as five.

Pornography does more damage to a child’s brain than that of a adults simply because they are still developing and and are not educated about emotions. Pornography changes a teenagers perspective on the way they think and look at relationships and it can easily turn to an addiction.

Memory and thinking

A child’s brain is developing right up until adulthood and as they are born with no images, information, memories or anything programmed into their minds they find alot of information to help them from the internet. When they develop they are simply learning as they go along in life, they are given the simple instructions of life and are taught right from wrong yes,  but most adults are unable to talk about emotions with teenagers as they are also not educated on emotions enough, if at all. Children and teenagers are often told they are too young to understand emotions or told off if they raise thier voice, get mad or cry. Not providing children with an understanding that crying, anger, upset or any emotion is a natural feeling is as bad as letting a child learn for themselves. Unfortuantly this is happening more often than not.

Pornography on a teenage brain

Children watch pornography which releases chemicals in the brain and for many they will feel aroused for the first time, which of course is an enjoyable experience. The hormone that is released is during this time is called dopamine and it is responsible for memory, mood, attention and pleasure which is activated when someone experiences pleasure. Pornography is arousing  to teenagers and it satisfies their sexual urges which is why they watch as much as they can, as this goes on the brain needs more dopamine and this is where an addiction to pornography can begin.

Relationships

Pornography has a place in society for over 18s  who understand sex, arousal, desire and relationships, the very things minors don’t. They probably first watch porn because it’s fun to break the rules, then they get pleasure from it and think it’s the way sex happens in real life relationships.

This is where the brain acts on desire and arousal and not education and it builds a false understanding of sex and relationships. I am asked by many adults and media professionals how I know so much on this subject, when I tell them I was an adult actress from the 90s they stop listening, which is exactly where the problem begins. People, especially media need to understand the best education on reality v fantasy of pornography is from someone who has experienced both sex acting and real sex. I believe parents and education providers need to be educated on the very subject they are telling their children not to look at, after all it’s not ever going away.

Teenage addictions

When children watch pornography repeatedly they receive something known as a chemical bath, this is when the brain can’t produce the amount of chemicals the brain needs for pleasure. Repeated watching of pornography can lead to them not being sexually aroused by normal sex acts and they have to look for other ways to get their pleasure. This is a serious worry as they may access sites which are much worse than simple pornography and may have violence and dominance involved. This can lead to personality disorders and sometimes worse a growing desire to act out what they see on screen.

Pornography shows people with great bodies and this can affect a teenagers perception of how they are meant to look and with teenagers easily influenced by what they see on-screen or in the media they can easily develop confidence issues. This is the same crucial stage the body goes through many developing stages as they grow from teenagers to adults and this can lead to eating disorders. This is the stage they need to be educated on what is fantasy v reality.

Ignoring the discussion of pornography and trying to sweep it under the carpet is not going to help, in fact it will cause more damage than good. My advice is to accept it is in our world and always will be, understand its place in society and research the correct information you need to educate your own children and not pass the buck to the educational system.

Written by;

Pornography expert and Addictions Therapist

Lianne Young

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