Breaking up with someone and moving on is hard to do. When the emotional connection in a relationship breaks down it can be difficult and complicated, in many ways. Relationships that break down can leave people feeling self-doubt, insecure and fearful for the future. But at a certain time we have to move on, none of us our super human with no feelings, we have needs too. Pain is not the only emotion you should be experiencing in any relationship, and sometimes a break up has no make up, its just time for us to wake up.

A loving relationship should make you feel appreciated, loved and wanted. You have a right to have someone ask you how your day was, to say thank you when you have done a good gesture and to respect you in every way. When these have vanished from a relationship you have to ask yourself Is it time for me to move on?

Men and women have emotions and a need for security, emotional understanding and intimate touch. The thought of moving on scares the best of us, and it can feel like learning to walk again. You literally have to start again, in spite of good or bad experiences you experienced in your present relationship and its damn scary. But it’s not impossible.

If you have been clear about your needs and they have not been met, you need to deal with it, and now. You have given your time, your trust, your love and need this back for a relationship to survive. Taking someone’s word and not seeing a change in their actions is a clear indication it’s time to move on. If you are always being told you are doing something wrong, or you are in fear of screwing up all the time then you seriously need to ask yourself Why is this person with me?  Or if you are questioning your judgement all the time, or waiting for something to go wrong then it’s time to leave.

Relationships don’t always work out the way we wish, that’s life. One thing you need to do is sit down and ask yourself Do I want to feel and be in this situation in 12 months time?If the answer is no it’s time to leave. Life is no rehearsal.

When a relationship ends, the emotional pain and recovery journey can be overwhelming. Sure there is a natural time to grieve and wallow a while when a relationship ends, but when this is stopping you from living your life, it’s time to look after yourself.

Heal yourself and believe you will feel better

If you are still unsure and words are hard to inspire you then listen to this song, if it hits a nerve then ask yourself Is it time for me to leave? Change the words to superman if you are a guy. It is worth a listen.